Astrology and Psychology of Happiness

In this new series we explore happiness, family, self-worth, and early childhood experiences, including trauma and its lasting impact on later relationships. Over more than 35 years of practice, I have repeatedly observed similar planetary patterns appearing across many horoscopes — including my own. Clients come seeking clarity about astrology and what their charts reveal. In essence, I approach astrology as a form of destiny engineering, examining the karmic implications embedded within a horoscope.

Early Foundations Seen in Planetary Patterns

In one recent case, a clear combination of Venus, Saturn, and the Moon appeared in the fourth house themes relating to the mother and early home life. From experience with similar configurations, I deduced early separation from the mother figure — often involving surrogate care or being raised by multiple caregivers. With Venus and Saturn dignified in Libra alongside the Moon, I estimated that the critical developmental period occurred within the first five or six years. A subtle sense of abandonment likely remained beneath many of the client’s adult relationships. Fortunately, planetary dignity suggested protection from the more severe forms of early hardship that can affect children.

Personal Reflection and Astrological Resonance

In my own horoscope, the same Venus–Saturn combination influenced my childhood. I too experienced separation at approximately six years old, spending time in an orphanage and later foster care before eventually returning to my biological family. During that period, I was also separated from my sister. This personal resonance illustrates how astrologers sometimes interpret charts by recognising parallels between celestial patterns and lived experience.

Afflictions to the Fourth House

In more difficult charts, the fourth house may be afflicted by Saturn, Mars, or other malefic planets — especially if these occupy the fourth house or if the ruler of the fourth is placed in the sixth, eighth, or twelfth houses. Such configurations can indicate profound disconnection from the biological mother or even adoption. The first and fourth houses together describe the emotional foundations of life and the sense of belonging formed in childhood. When these foundations are unstable, confidence and self-esteem may be compromised, often affecting future relationships.

Repetition of Patterns Across Clients

I have encountered many clients with similar experiences. As I explained to this client, she needed to be mindful that subconscious feelings of abandonment were not being unconsciously carried into each relationship — which indeed proved true. Astrology should not rely solely on mathematical or astronomical calculation. When identical planetary patterns recur across dozens of charts — including our own — consistent life themes become evident. With intuitive perception added, the individual’s life narrative often emerges with clarity. While similar configurations do not manifest identically for everyone, there is a strong tendency toward related experiences.

Childhood Experience and Adult Relationships

When a child does not feel accepted, loved, or encouraged to express themselves freely, the consequences often appear in adult relationships. Vulnerability remains active beneath the surface, and love may be perceived as withheld. A persistent expectation of rejection can shape emotional responses and relational dynamics.

In my own first marriage, I carried a deep sense of being unlovable despite reassurance from others. The social masks we adopt rarely reflect our true emotional state. Astrology can help reveal the underlying origins of such patterns. Through appropriate remedial approaches, individuals may achieve psychological, emotional, and spiritual release.

Healing the Root Cause

Understanding that relational difficulties originate in early conditioning is the first step toward healing. Acceptance of the issue allows meaningful work to begin. A skilled astrologer gently supports the client in confronting childhood fears and vulnerabilities. Over time, individuals can become integrated and emotionally secure, forming relationships free from the projections of past wounds.

Conclusion

Without addressing early emotional abandonment or abuse patterns, individuals risk projecting unresolved psychological pain onto partners. This complex dynamic frequently contributes to relationship breakdown or divorce when neither person recognises the internal origin of the conflict. The fourth house reminds us that personal happiness and relational stability begin with the earliest foundations of belonging, safety, and emotional nourishment.